The unbearable discomfort of being myself
The thought alone of putting myself out there, being vulnerable, raw, honest, transparent, terrifies me immensely. For a while I denied it, thinking of myself as someone who embraces authenticity and all its messiness. Turns out, I don’t. I am scared of my own authenticity.
This fear doesn’t come from a poor self-image. If I would have to talk about myself, I would have so many nice things to say. I would do it in such a loving way that my need to stay hidden in order to feel safe would make no sense. I do believe that I have…
This is how I got there
Back in February this year I got my first order on Fiverr. It was for no more than $15, but it felt like such a big deal at the time. And it was. Beginnings are a big deal. Being brave enough to start even if you don’t feel ready is a big deal. Stepping out of your comfort zone is a big deal. And five months later, signing a contract where, for the first time, there are 4 digits after the dollar sign, for sure feels like a big deal.
After Fiverr noticed me that I just got my first…
You don’t hold the answers to someone else’s problems
I get it. You want to help people so you can feel better about yourself. You know what happiness and success are made of and you want to sell the recipe. You found your way and you want to show it to the ones who are lost too.
But the truth is, when you are giving advice, you are leaving people utterly disheartened in themselves.
The version of reality you are so infatuated with is different than someone else’s. What works for you may not work for any other human being…
Now is the time to become the best at what you do.
You may first be wondering why your work needs to be remarkable. Isn’t it enough that you get up every day and do it for hours and hours?
Well, no. The truth is that whatever you are doing, there are probably thousands if not millions of other people in the world who can do it too (Only if you are not Elon Musk, who I doubt is reading my article. But in case he is, hi!). …
Bianca Diaconu
Graphic designer. Still figuring it out. In the meantime, I create. bianca@biancadiaconu.com | ig @b.biancadiaconu
